Define Love For A Friend

No man is an island. Thus, every person in this world, regardless of culture, ethnicity, age or sex has an infinite right to have a friend, same with constant opportunities to make friends with others whom he or she finds interesting or shares the same interests with.

However, not everyone finds it easy to actually befriend somebody. This process might be as easy as one, two and three, but for others, it may seem like they would have to need supernatural powers just to take a single step towards the person they want to befriend. In this article are tips on how you can start wonderful friendship with those whom you want to be friends with, without having to take ten years.

The not-so-easy befriending process is why some people end up being depressed even when they are at the peak or success of their lives. It is because not everyone actually has the gift of being able to experience and personally feel the love that comes from a friend. The love from a lover is way different from the kind of love that a friend gives, which is, by the way, far better.

 All a friend has to do show love to his or her other friend, is to show and prove that the kind of love he or she is offering is, in fact, genuine. Here are the tips on how to start a loving friendship that guarantees genuineness.

Identification

First and foremost, before you can actually befriend somebody, of course, you have to look for someone to befriend. You have to at least have an inkling that the person you are about to befriend has the same interests as you so that neither of you are left hanging in your conversation, if ever you have finally gathered the guts to start one.

Common interests can be spotted in a few minutes. If you are the type who would rather just sit around while everyone else is having rowdy fun on the dance floor, or you just want to be alone and listen to the breeze, you have to spot a wallflower. Meaning, the person easier for you to befriend is someone who does the same hobbies and activities as you. If you are a party animal, approaching someone with his or her nose buried in the thickest book you have ever seen, successfully, will deem to be the most difficult task you have ever done in a decade.

Introduction

Once you have already identified a potential close buddy, you can now start your conversation. But of course, before you start ranting about the things that you hate and the things that you can’t just live without, you have to introduce yourself.

Introduction is not just for name’s purposes. However, of course, it is important that you know his or her name, as well as it is important that you know his or hers. This way, your conversation can be smooth-sailing given that you already know each other’s names. Also, introduction gives away that both of you share the same interests. You can add some information about your hiking trip here and there to someone who has been hiking up mountains all his or her life, or you can mention your favorite scotch drink to someone who loves to drink.

Trust

Also, you have to give a few indicatory gestures and expressions that he or she can absolutely trust you. If you want him or her to stay longer in your friendship, or stay for an extremely long time, you have to put emphasis on trust.

Without trust, a friendship cannot be built. Just think about it. If you were someone who had a lot to tell and wanted to tell most of them to someone just to minus the burden, and suddenly that someone just blurts out, to all of the people in your office, one of your deepest secrets. Bummer, right?

Presence

Problems naturally arise once in a while. That is life. But what does not come naturally is when a friend all of a sudden leans towards deciding to result to drastic measures since he or she has realized that solving a specific personal dilemma on his or own would be impossible. This is where love from a friendship kicks in.