Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Sexy Older Women Dating Younger Men - Cougars Abound


There is a current trend of older women dating younger men.  The popular term for such women is “cougars.”  Celebrity women who have reached a certain age are finding happiness with younger guys.  Demi Moore is perhaps the leading example of this trend as she married Ashton Kutcher who was 15 years her junior.  Madonna was married to Guy Richie (10 years younger) and when she split with him, she hooked up with Alex Rodriguez (15 years younger.)

Older women find younger men appealing for several reasons.  Cougars tend to be successful career women.  They have high level executive positions in major firms or own their own businesses.  Many men their own age are threatened by their successes.  Younger men, who were raised in a more egalitarian era, are likely to be supportive of the women in their lives.

Older women dating younger men also point to their partner’s youthful outlook on life.  These men aren’t jaded about things like their older counterparts are.

Then there is the sex.  Women peak sexually in their late 30s and into their 40s while men reach their greatest performance levels at age 19 and then decline.  Many women feel that they missed out on something when they were younger and more inexperienced.  The sexual prowess of a younger man is quite attractive to many women in their 30s and 40s.

But, the older women dating younger men trend works both ways.  Many younger men find dating an older woman to be very rewarding.

Part of the attraction is certainly sexual.  A mature woman knows her body.  She knows what pleases her and she is not afraid to take the lead in the bedroom.  Guys find this confidence to be quite the turn on.

Young men who date financially secure older women are also more likely to be able to chart their own path in terms of a career.  There is less pressure to make money now when a woman can foot some of the bills.  Many men dating cougars have found that they can return to graduate school or start a business – risks that wouldn’t be possible if they were dating women their own age.

Men are also likely to appreciate that older women are more emotionally mature and less needy.  There is quite a bit less drama in a older women dating younger men relationship.  After a fight, an older woman is less likely to call her sister or her best friend to rehash the experience.  She’ll likely go to bed and tell her boyfriend they can discuss it in the morning.

One of the challenges in these cougar relationships is over fertility.  An older women usually either already has children or doesn’t want them.  Many of these relationships break up because the man wants the chance to be a father. If you can weather that storm, the relationships tend to be unusually strong.