There comes a point in almost any successful relationship where things calm down and cool off. There is no longer a major spark between the partners. They get comfortable in their relationship and develop a routine. They no longer find as much time to spend together. Often, this is not due to a lack of desire between the couple. Most often it is the fact that life gets in the way. They may have children or careers to deal with. They are busy and just do not have the free time that they had when their relationship was in the beginning stages. Most people realize this problem and they will eventually have a desire to change it. They want to get that spark back and reconnect with each other. No matter how strong that desire and want is however, they have to find ways to change it. If they cannot, then there is no way that things will change and in the end they could have a relationship that ends due to the needs not being met. There is nothing worse than knowing that there is a problem and doing nothing to change it or make it better. This is a self destructive pattern. It is important to make time to spend with your partner. No matter how long you have been in a relationship, you should still go on dates and have personal time alone. Not only does this keep the relationship healthy, but it also protects your sanity. You are free to focus on nothing but, the other person. There are no kids to contend with and no outside interference. Ideally, dates should be made at least once a month. Hire a babysitter ahead of time so that you are not stuck without anyone to watch the kids on the night of your date. You do not have to go out and do anything that costs a lot of money. It is more about spending time together than it is about what you do. A simple walk in the park or picnic under the stars is very romantic. In some cases, you do not even have to go out. Find friends or family that the kids can spend the night with. Then, have a candlelit dinner with your partner. You could also cuddle up on the couch together and watch a movie. There are unending possibilities of what you can do for your date. Just set the dates and stick to them. It is all about follow through. Spending time together is often all that is needed to put the spark back into a relationship. You will find that you are less stressed and that your bond is stronger. You begin to find time to be together again. You have that old desire. There is no longer a monotonous life that has taken over.