The past two decades has truly brought about a revolution in the world of dating. What was once a social exercise initiated and dominated by men is now an even playing field for women too.
In the past, it was inconceivable for women to ask men out for a date. Although some men still violently detest women asking first, it is fast becoming a common and accepted practice. If the guy you like gets turned off with you being implicitly honest and frank about your interest in him, then maybe he is not your type after all. You'd probably want somebody who's cool with the modern girl type. Teenage girls who want to try asking guys out for the first time may benefit from a few useful tips.
The first thing to do is to assess your prey. It would, of course, be a whole lot easier if you're planning to go out with a guy who is already an acquaintance. In this case, there would be no need for awkward self-introductions and no need to break the ice. If you're eyeing a complete stranger however, the best first step is to investigate. Of course, it would be a bad idea not to mention, and a complete example of bad taste, to poke your nose into his private life. It would be good though to fish around for little useful details about your guy like what he's interested in, how old he is and if he's seeing somebody else. That way, you'd know ahead of time if the guy's worth pursuing and if he is, you'd also know how to catch his interest.
Once you've gotten to know him better through your little research, resist the urge to go for the kill. Although there's nothing wrong with asking him out first, it does make us girls feel better to be asked first. It means a lot to female pride to be the one to be noticed. Make him see you but be subtle even when you're right under his nose. Strut back and forth in front of him with a group of your friends; pretend like you just bumped into him on your way out from class; parade your beauty and brains into his consciousness during recitation or school programs and wait if he takes notice. Chances are, if you've done a good job of impressing him with your natural self, he'll ask you out first. This would make it seem like he's been the interested party all along.
If your guy is a little slow on the uptake however, and doesn't realize you're his for the taking, then maybe its time to make the move. Of course, you have to ask an accomplice friend to introduce you first and after all the niceties and pleasant chatter to make him feel at ease, pop the question. They key is to be low key and casual. Don't ask him the obvious. Couch the question in words that would make it seem like you're just asking for a friendly night out. If you think he's still not too comfortable with you, consider asking other friends to go out with you.
Be specific with what you want to do, and it may help too if your plans revolve around what he wants to do. Unless you want to lose the chance, tell him casually what you're inviting him to and when that would be. If the two of you do not share the same interests, it may not be such a good idea to just go with his interests completely and sacrifice your own. Then again, this is only the first date. This is when you'll find out if he's really someone you'd like to see more of or not.
If he says yes, then that means you've done it right. There are chances however that he may say no for one reason or another. Don't be depressed or traumatized. It's normal and absolutely fine. Just stand up and scour the sea for more fish.
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